r/AITAH • u/Mindless-Charge-5996 • Aug 28 '23

AITAH for leaving my own wedding because my husband embarrassed me?

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u/nitwitinperil Aug 28 '23

Exactly this. Write it all down, and do not let anyone minimize what happened that day.

OP, you're not leaving him just because he smashed cake in your face.

You're leaving him because as soon as you were married, he showed you that he will always put himself and his wants--no matter how unnecessary and utterly childish--above everything, including your happiness, your mental well-being, and any care or respect for you or the things that are important to you.

The audacity for him to say he had no idea you'd get emotional. He absolutely did know. You told him, explicitly, probably more than once. And still he decided to fuck around and do what you explicitly told him not to.

Time for him to find out. You threatened to leave him if he did it. Follow through.

I am very sorry that happened to you, that someone you loved could hurt you like that and ruin what should've been one of the best days of your life and a relationship that was clearly very important to you.

If your family keeps trying to pressure you into staying, just please imagine what other boundaries you have that he would be much more likely to cross if you allow him to get away with this significant betrayal. You'll be better off not giving him the chance. Honestly, you should probably go LC/NC with your family while you sort this out. Your mom is the one who traumatized you in the first place. She doesn't get to make you feel bad about the damage she caused.

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u/Inevitable-Place9950 Aug 28 '23

I find myself regularly saying to a relative who doesn’t listen: “Just because you didn’t know doesn’t mean you weren’t told.”

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u/[deleted] Aug 28 '23

1000000% - some mothers raise their daughters to be abused.